Quote Originally Posted by bambina View Post
It was a question desert Dom. I don't need you to judge me for it please.
Not judging you at all. Giving you a logical first opinion based on where you are at.

If you are on a sports forum, people ask about sports, if you are on a crocheting forum, people will approach and ask about crocheting. And if you set up a profile on a bdsm forum, your kinks are naturally going to be a conversation starter.

If you want someone to "get to know you first", please be clear about that in your profile. Of course, that is not going to stop the pm's from those who want to play and beleive in the quantity theory, but it should help those who read your profile a bit.