Should I be mad when the first that comes out of a Doms' mouth is about BDSM/sex?

[bambina]

Flaming redhead, Actually I DO avoid places like that because of the unwanted attention. I don't go out looking to hook up and therefore avoid the common places where people do go to hook up (bars, clubs, parties, etc...). I came here because it 'seemed' like a tame site. Sure there was BDSM, but the community seemed to be void of those people who make clubs and bars and parties ever so unpleasant.

But in short Flaming redhead, yes it does keep me from going. My conclusion (after writing this thread) is that this is the best I can do and that I have to accept that I can't expect much more from guys. It's just sad that this is the best that guys can do and that holding the same respect for women here that they do in real life is just asking too much.

And I'm not bitching. besides, this is my thread, remember?

p.s: I don't drink