My conclusion (after writing this thread) is that this is the best I can do and that I have to accept that I can't expect much more from guys. It's just sad that this is the best that guys can do and that holding the same respect for women here that they do in real life is just asking too much.
You are perhaps painting all men with the same broad brush based on attention that you receive from a few. I do have to say that you are quite wrong here.