Should I be mad when the first that comes out of a Doms' mouth is about BDSM/sex?

[Ozme52]

Sure there is Ozm52 but that's okay. I don't think you and I will reach a common ground.

Basically, Ozme52 is a prime example of the kind of men I dislike on this site. They feel justified in approaching others in ways I detest just because of the context of this website. Sure it has strong sexual overtones but that doesn't mean you shouldn't approach someone with caution and care here because you have no idea whether or not they are comfortable discussing such things in detail. In real life, the reason men watch what they say and are careful with what they say is because of respect. Men in real life carry a certain level of respect (or at least fake it) for women and, even if they do want sex, they STILL are careful about what they say. So...news flash gentlemen. We are women, too. Just because we seek a certain taboo lifestyle doesn't mean we don't want to be treated as if we were approached in real life. It doesn't mean respect goes out the window just because of the lifestyle we've chosen.

EVERYONE in real life wants to find a life partner and mate but that doesn't mean it's okay to talk about sex in the first 5 minutes. People may be sexual beings but that doesn't mean that it's okay to shoot straight for sex in a conversation. You work up to it over time when you are comfortable with the person you are around and vice versa. So why abandon that principle here?

Guys, you respect a women enough to at least introduce yourself and ask the girl about her interests in real life. You should hold the same level of respect here.

At first I was seeking an explanation to why men act a certain way and whether or not I should just accept it. But now I realize that those who act and think like Ozme52 don't deserve my time. If a guy can't take 5 minutes in the beginning to at least learn the basics about me then I am better off without him. I made this thread with an open mind. Now I'm a little upset that there are guys out there who think approaching me on the topic of BDSM straight out is okay. I don't feel comfortable discussing such things with a stranger. It's not me. And I hate how guys assume that everyone is cool with it. It seems I will have to write on my profile that I don't discuss BDSM or sex with strangers because, like it or not, there are inconsiderate, impatient, rude people out there who are selfishly only looking out for themselves and care not how the other party could potentially feel about a certain topic. It's a shame. It's a damn shame.

WHOA & WTF!!

In as much as you have never been approached by me, you have a lot of nerve characterizing me in any manner.

I merely think your need to rant about this site, denigrating the membership, and painting them with the broad brush of your latent disgust, is tiresome. I disagree with most of your opinions and am constantly appalled by your characterizations of people who think differently than you.

Maybe only one kind of person approaches you, (the ones who don't participate in the forum discussions and don't read your tirades,) because of how you act in the forums.

Regardless, implying in any manner that I have treated you as you described in this thread is an unfounded LIE.