How do you feel dominating someone who's been previously harmed in some way?

[Ozme52]

I think what I am asking is not so much how does the Dom help his partner with her feelings, as, how does he feel during "play" or when he is dominating in a more forceful way. It seems that something has made my partner feel that he can't see a way into dominating me. As I said, I don't know if he feels that he now doesn't have permission in some cosmic sense (certainly he has permission from me), or if it's just not erotic anymore. Maybe I'm damaged goods? I don't know.

No way rachel. Or rather... it depends on whether you've dealt with it in a way that let's you set the past aside. How much baggage you carry from those times.

If you are comfortable, and, as you said, have given permission and outlined your limits, then there is no reason for a dominant to not enjoy you to the fullest.

Treating you as "fragile" when you're not, is him projecting his insecurities onto you. I'm guessing, someone with that perspective is less likely to be the Dom you want and need.

btw, I read your personal ad and thought it was brilliant. It won't take you long to find the right match.