Quote Originally Posted by thir View Post
I do not see what that proves. All subs are different, and we all have things that work for us, and things that for some individual reason or other doesn't.
Or do you have set ideas of what a sub is, since you see fit to question her on this?
Hardly, everyone is unique and should be treated so. So is every relationship unique.

I question her on this because it's a rant. Every dominant sets rules. Every sub wants them. (yes there are exceptions... but that's not the point)

Painting us as hypocrites is ridiculous. If she had said... "Oh, my dom doesn't let me cum but doesn't restrict himself too... He's such a hypocrite!" don't you think everyone would have laughed their asses off?

It's just too easy to generate this kind of "Oh woe is me" bandwagon that everyone gets to hop onto.


I agree that this is a communication problem, as others have said. But often a person wants to discuss a certain issue before taking it further, which I think is a good idea and one of the things this place is good for.

Which IMO should be possible without running into comments as that last one you made.
I would normally agree, except it wasn't a discussion... You go back, reread her escalating responses.

Reread mine. I said if it was indeed a cold and heartless punishment, then she is being abused and should end it... but that if every act on his part is an act of hypocrisy, then what exactly does she think dominance and submission is?