Why do many BDSM people look down on switches?

[voxelectronica]

Question Vox-

Do you ever want to commit to one side, Dom or sub, for the rest of your life?

want is a strong word. I do not WANT to commit but then again i don't like the idea of committing to one person.

I mean- let's say you found a Master or sub and wanted to marry them, be with them forever, etc., and your only partner. Is it more likely you'd want to be the Dom or sub in that relationship?

now when it comes down to WANT. That's different. I can think of people that I would WANT to be with in a monogamous relationship (or close to it). Some of those people are sub some are Dom. That doesn't bother me, i would be what they wanted because I want them. I want them for who they are and how they handle their kink.

And would you be able to choose? Would you be comfortable living the rest of your life not expressing one side of your sexuality? Or do you think you'd have to have a partner that is a switch to do that?

Well first of all I would only date a switch if they were a Dom or sub and i was the opposite. I don't switch the same person. Secondly I'm bi so this is a question I've had to deal with for some time but have finally been able to explain it (I hope).

My sexuality is more like a series of slots. So the gender slot can be filled with boy or girl (or really anything in between). BDSM slot can be filled with either submissive or Dominant roles. I'm not looking for both, if I'm "denied" one option i don't miss it as my slot is filled. I'm looking for perfection in those roles though. I'm not looking for some ugly boy or girl they have to be pretty. I'm not looking for someone who likes to get slapped around in bed. I'm looking for someone who will be there on their knees, naked, looking down when I walk through the door OR a Dom who will be just as diligent as i am.

Just because I'm up for anything doesn't mean I want everything all at once.

Sorry for all the questions- I just don't understand much but want to know more.

:-P

don't worry about it.