Quote Originally Posted by Hime View Post
I wish you all were, too!

Personally, I don't think of people who lie about how many partners they have as polyamorous -- I think of them as cheaters, i.e. examples of monogamy gone wrong. Being poly is about communicating and SHARING with multiple people. Lying isn't sharing.

For instance, if I have a pizza and you say "can I have a piece?" and I give you one, that's sharing. If I offer you a piece and I take it, that's sharing. If I look away for a second and you grab a piece and shove it in your mouth, that isn't sharing, it's stealing, even if I was going to offer it to you anyway.
you are certianlly right- and I totally agree. I was married for 17 years, and we split up becaues she cheated. if she had come to me and said " i'm really hot for this guy- can i fuck him? do you mind?" I would have not had a problem. it was the liying and backstabbing that caused me to kick her out.

( funny aside? - when she was leaving, she tried to pack up her collar. I snatched it from her hands. she says- hey! that's mine! I said, no, i was letting you wear it. it belongs to me and you are not worthy..... I'll mail it to her new boyfriend on our wedding anniversary......)