Flaming redhead-I was talking about pleasing an abuser. I know what it's like to make someone happy- Who makes me happy in return. That was the difference. The abuser just took and never gave!

Actually sex is mirroring what happens in the whole relationship. What happens in the bedroom is not totally separated from the rest.

Disrespect? When was I disrespectful to you? In fact you are replying to me in that way. I was just having a different opinion. It happens in discussion forums sometimes and it shouldn't make you defensive if you are not insecure about something. I am entitled to my own opinions and so are you, right?

SubmissiveDoll:
I never said all people in BDSM have been abused. I was commenting on the first post.

You are both taking it very personally what I said. Why? I wasn't talking about you, I was talking about myself. And it's not nice for a newbie to be attacked if she's asking questions. People who have good self-esteem tolerate different opinions. Where is your toleration?

Take care, peace.