Quote Originally Posted by damyanti View Post
1. An absolute red flag is...those who send you PMs within the first 24-48 hours of joining the Forum. They monitor new members and hope to get to them while they are most vulnerable, before they get some good advice, confidence, some experience and make real friends. This is a major creep alert! 48 Hours!!! I'm waiting way too long!!


The following are not necessarily major alerts, but they are to me personally.

I dont like it when they call me names (girl, slut, dear...) when we have no such familiarity established. ooops.

Requests for picture within first ten minutesMust remember to wait eleven minutes...


<<==checks watch....


<<==checks watch again...


Hi girl! How about a photo?

...and if you say no, they ask for it again ten minutes later.
<<==checks watch....


<<==checks watch again...


Also watch out for folk who want to know about your financials or your living arrangements. Those are rarely appropriate for any early-on conversation.

Watch out for inexperienced masters looking for inexperienced subs. I mean, it can work, but why put your trust in someone who knows no more than you do?

And the red flag that I hearken to most, when talking to people at my munch, are those who claim to be leaving their spouse but can't meet you except when they should be golfing... or some other similarly conspicuous time slot.