how to spot an arsehole

[thrall]

unfortunately there are more of the bad one's out there then we would like to think...

Listen to your gut!
Watch what they do in the forum
Check the details/is the story consistent.....
Ask very hard questions.....and see how they are answered....and i mean whopper questions!.....
Talk to other people and see what they have to say about whomever you are thinking about...
Is emotional blackmail employed to get you to do things you are uncomfortable with.....big red flag!


common sense......

[c_a_i]

the problem is that it is so rare that it can easily be called the uncommon sense

[Lisais mine]

how do you spot an asshole? I don't know any hard and fast rules, but when did Dom become a title and not a predisposition? just because someone gets off on turnig somebody on, dosen't mean they can do that from the first conversation. that in itself is an example of assholery to me.

You just don't start off a conversation that way. and i think that any decent human being knows it. if you are interested in developing a relationship with someone, well, you might want to know what they look like- the online thing is a bit weird to me- but if someone isn't polite, involving you in a real conversation, trying to see if they have a connection with you- then they are most definitly an asshole, and not worth your time.

I think that a D/s relationship needs so deep a level of trust that you have to have that first.

[BryansGrrrl]

You just don't start off a conversation that way. and i think that any decent human being knows it.

Although the conversation this morning about how grabbing some random woman's hair in a bar as a "pick up line" was enjoyable, I do have to agree.

[Lisais mine]

heh
well, it WAS your idea...

[DIXIE LASS]

when did Dom become a title and not a predisposition?

Love it! A memorable quote. Thank you.

DIXIE