I would also just like to say thank you for this article. It's quite like a slap to the face to realise that what you're reading about is you. I have just entered my first online relationship as a sub and have done all the wrong things as described in this article! It is hard i find to think of yourself as irrational when you appear to have spent so much time considering something..
[What occurs next is a mad dash or race toward 'finding' that special person who can attend to those so long unattended needs coupled to a desperate desire to gather more and more information. This often triggers or propels the initiation of a state of frenzy. This is an increasing and progressive sensation of 'need'. Fairly quickly the submissive may discover that 'getting their fix', becomes supremely important in their lives. It can leave them irrational, willing to make poor decisions, rash, impulsive and generally stupid. ]
[Contact with a Dominant, almost any kind will tend to rivet their attention. The very first gift that the submissive gives away here is their common sense. The sensations piggy-back, by this I mean that the submissive upon discovering the community and all the excitement and feelings surrounding 'finding their home', may easily pile on their 'desire' for completion and pounce on the first candidate that comes along as being 'THE ONE']
After having struggle for the past few days trying to realise what is wrong with the relationship, trying to understand why i felt uncomfortable despite my desires to be dominated, this article has managed to "flick the switch" and turn my common sense back on (at least for now! lol!)
At least now understand what is happening in my mind and can take measures to bring myself back on track. Thank you very much for sharing your information, it has made a world of difference for me.
[QUOTE=sidhewolf;780836]Here is an article I have in my file that may help to answer some, if not all of these questions. It used to be on Steel Door, but is no longer on Her site.
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