Why 'slut' ?

[good_girl]

It might be induced by heart-ache but the association of 'submissive' and 'slut' is really beginning to bug me. Its not that under the right circumstances - meaning the bedroom or where ever else I happen to be in subspace - don't like to be called a slut and be treated like one... but right now I just hate the general idea.

I am not a slut. In fact I am a lot less of a slut just because I am a submissive - my submissiveness makes it very hard for me to be a slut, in fact. (I only sleep with men I love, I can only love a man I can submit to, and once I love him I am his and only his.)

I agree with you in part...I am not a slut as many men would see, I am however my Masters slut.

The thing is, I am tired of men thinking that just because I may like to have my bottom spanked, that means that they can generally treat me like I don't matter. I am sick of that particular part of being treated like a slut...
To be honest right now I am so sick of it, I'd rather go back to having a vanilla boyfriend who loves and adores me than to self-proclaimed Masters and Doms who only satisfy themselves... in the end.
Is it so much to ask for to be loved as deeply as I can love?

This does not in the least mean that he treats me like I don't matter, just the opposite actually, he treats me with respect, adoration, he is the most caring man I have ever known. All these things are the reason I am his. Like you, I will not submit to just anyone, only the one who treats me right deserves the same in return.

I don't know your situation, it sounds like you have been meeting some wannabe's, maybe you have yet to meet your true Master, I believe that when you do you will be happy to be his slut and only his

Be patient, never lose your sense of self, and most of all don't settle for less than what will make you happy.

[Laila]

I don't know your situation, it sounds like you have been meeting some wannabe's, maybe you have yet to meet your true Master, I believe that when you do you will be happy to be his slut and only his

Be patient, never lose your sense of self, and most of all don't settle for less than what will make you happy.

Thank you hun, and I agree. I had a Master who made me feel like that - but in the end it wasn't enough and I think I am just feeling sorry for myself. Especially after more recent experiences with yeah... a wannabe.