Physical strength

[lucy]

As a sub i think it's nice to be the physically weaker in the relationship. However, it certainly isn't necessary. And even if my Master is way stronger than me, i still could outrun him easily.
So if i stay with him, it's only because that's what i want to do, not because of his strength.

And the question that arises from this is...how or how much do you use your physical strength to your advantage and or as your dominance tool?

He uses his strength often, to pin me down and tying me and i just love it. Or he uses it to pin me down and tickle me, which i don't love at all *grrrr*

[damyanti]

Or he uses it to pin me down and tickle me, which i don't love at all *grrrr*

That is why I put tickling down as my hard limit. Not kidding, .

[Logic1]

That is why I put tickling down as my hard limit. Not kidding, .

my girl laughs uncontrollably when I tickle her. That must mean that she likes it right??

and as for physical strength, no that isnt nessecary since it is about giving up powers to the Dominant and not about Him/Her taking it.

[steelish]

my girl laughs uncontrollably when I tickle her. That must mean that she likes it right??

Grrrrrrr! What is it with Doms and their reasoning?

[Logic1]

Grrrrrrr! What is it with Doms and their reasoning?

There is nothing wrong with our reasoning, you know.


As for physical power as a need for Dominance again from Me.
Using strength to pin her down before tying or something is fun but is that really Dominating or just "force". Personally I am leaning towards that being force. Dominating is telling you to present your arms to me for tying them. That is what it is written in MY book anyways.
That however doesnt mean that force cant be sexy and for some perhaps even a necessity to submit or to Dominate even. The ones that needs physical strength to Dominate needs help though.

[GrandMaster]

There is nothing wrong with our reasoning, you know.


As for physical power as a need for Dominance again from Me.
Using strength to pin her down before tying or something is fun but is that really Dominating or just "force". Personally I am leaning towards that being force. Dominating is telling you to present your arms to me for tying them. That is what it is written in MY book anyways.
That however doesnt mean that force cant be sexy and for some perhaps even a necessity to submit or to Dominate even. The ones that needs physical strength to Dominate needs help though.

You are alright for someone from Skåke

[Logic1]

You are alright for someone from Skåke

naturally Man

[oww-that-hurt]

That is why I put tickling down as my hard limit. Not kidding, .

Same here. For some reason tickling puts my mind into complete overload, even in non-sub/Dom situations. To me personally tickling would be 100% non-consensual and abusive.

[kaerose13]

Same here. For some reason tickling puts my mind into complete overload, even in non-sub/Dom situations. To me personally tickling would be 100% non-consensual and abusive.

i'm exactly the same with that too, that is the strongest limit i have. (i've actually flipped out and given normal friends bloody noses for tickling me, i didn't mean too, its just my instinctual reaction to tickling).


anyways, for me it is 100% necessary for somebody to be physically stronger than me, or at least able to beat me in a fight, for me to submit. for as small as i am, 5'4'' and 110lbs, i am extreemly strong and a decent fighter. i need the thought that He could force me to obey even though he never would. the possibility of danger is completely necessary for me. if i know that i could overpower somebody it doesn't require any trust for me to submit. also, i like to fight back, if i end that fight on top i'm no longer interested in submitting.

from reading this thread its obvious that many people disagree, but for me the physical strength is definitely a requirement.

[damyanti]

i need the thought that He could force me to obey even though he never would.

This really nailed it for me. Thank you for putting it into words so nicely Kaerose.

if i know that i could overpower somebody it doesn't require any trust for me to submit. also, i like to fight back, if i end that fight on top i'm no longer interested in submitting.

That is exactly from where my question came from.

[steelish]

He uses his strength often, to pin me down and tying me and i just love it. Or he uses it to pin me down and tickle me, which i don't love at all *grrrr*

I'm with you there, sister! Forge LOVES to tickle me!

But I must say, I do love the fact that he can easily overpower me. It's not that I want or need him to, but knowing that he is capable of doing it is like icing on the cake.