I think today's generations are terribly spoiled, lol...for me there was always an unconscious "awareness" of needing, of searching for something, for this...so when I heard the word "spanking" for the first time and that made something inside of me go click...and then when even that wasn't enough and I kept searching for something "more", and I heard words "BDSM"....all I had to do was go to my computer, log onto Internet and Google away ...and know that I am not the only one and that if so many people do it....

One of the greatest misconceptions about submissives, and I would dare say the leading reason why we don't tell more people in our "vanilla" life, is that submissives are "weak". *sort*

For a long time I have had the same thought myself, I admit...but then I came to realize it depends on your definition of need. Just because I don't need him, doesn't mean I don't need him. When did need become such a dirty word? We are human, it is part of all of ours nature to need human contact...what we are not is desperate, and for some reason two are often considered synonyms.

As for someone thinking less of "older" submissives *ggl*, it never even occurred to me...age is a state of spirit:

It's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln

We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations. Anaïs Nin


You rock, ladies!!!