submisives they become or they are born with it?

[denuseri]

I have allways liked to think of it like this:

We are all born with different qualities that in some cases and situations etc make us more or less submissive or dominant than in others.

For example mothers and fathers are often dominant over thier children.

The police officer who pulls me over for speeding is holding at least temporary dominance over me (or any one else that gets pulled over lol).

When teaching class at school I am dominant over my students.

When kneeling before my Owner He is dominant over me.

[good_girl]

I have allways liked to think of it like this:

We are all born with different qualities that in some cases and situations etc make us more or less submissive or dominant than in others.

For example mothers and fathers are often dominant over thier children.

The police officer who pulls me over for speeding is holding at least temporary dominance over me (or any one else that gets pulled over lol).

When teaching class at school I am dominant over my students.

When kneeling before my Owner He is dominant over me.

I like how you put this, very concise and to the point but it does raise this question...why do some choose to find a partner who is dominant over them when they could look for a partner who is submissive to them? This I believe is the original question and this I believe is where our nature comes into play.

[jonnyi's_nia]

Before I was married there was no way I could have been submissive. Even when we were first married. I was too strong willed and stubborn to let any man have control over me. But as time grew on, before I ever discovered bdsm, I realized that my JonnyI should be the head of house, and that I should stop trying to be. (It's a lot more complicated than that, this is the condensed version lol) So no, I don't think that you are "born" submissive. I think it is a learned trait.

[StormKat]

At least for me, it's also a matter of the other person (or persons) involved in the situation. I have a submissive side, but it takes a very alpha male to bring it out, let alone to keep me under his control. Yet I exercise an appropriate level of dominion over my own boy, who is just starting his journey into submission. The tendency to acknowledge another's dominance is part of a natural hierarchy structure but developing it, and deepening it, requires nurturing.

So I guess I'm going to say it's a combination of nature, nurture, and circumstance.

[denuseri]

I like how you put this, very concise and to the point but it does raise this question...why do some choose to find a partner who is dominant over them when they could look for a partner who is submissive to them? This I believe is the original question and this I believe is where our nature comes into play.

ahhh now there is the rub GoodGirl winks

Something inside me allways brought me back to seeking that special someone who would dominant me.

No matter how many times I left this way of life or what had happened to make me leave I have allways returned like a moth to the flame as if by instinct.

In that I honestly do believe it is in our natures for at least some if not all of us that are awakened to the joys of domination and submission.