Ok, I have never posted here before, and I usually prefer to remain in the background, but I am curious...
wow... I always thought there were certian qualities everyone was born with that steers them more towards being a leader, a.k.a. Dominant, or a follower, a.k.a., submissive... Never really thought about it as anything else, it's a different concept for me. I , for instance am the only member of my family to have these qualities, am the youngest of 4, 2 of whom had similar things happen to them, altho, it was at a much earlier age for me. I have always delighted in giving. Not one to have to have anything in return, just to see the pleasure on the face of another. Unfortunately, this has had quite a few drawbacks, as I am quite easily taken advantage of..therefore, I guard my inner-self as much as possible. I could comply with those who say that molestation as a child does sometimes bring these characteristics to the forefront, however, as I was molested by a family member at the tender age of 4, and once again by a different family member at the age of 8. So there is that possibility as well. But yet, here again, 2 of my siblings had similar instances, and they do not even have a 10th of the submissive traits that I have. And being the youngest of 4 girls, my father raised us to depend on ourselves.. I choose to give control to another, and gain an intense amount of pleasure from just a simple "good girl"....so.....I am curious to see what anyone would make of my situation..would you consider it genetic? or family environment? What category would I fall under?