...and amber is also right in that exhibitionism, (which can mean just talking about it in public,) is in and of itself a kink.

Just because it isn't his kink doesn't mean he isn't ready to be fully involved with you jynx.

Think of it as a hard limit and people wouldn't necessarily be on his case (on your behalf.)

In the vanilla world, the majority of people are exclusively self taught fuckers. And the vanilla world doesn't mind. So if we in the bdsm world happen to encounter people who prefer their privacy, should we be any less accommodating?