when people tell me that they are submissive BECAUSE of past abuse, I tend not to think that way...

you dont hear Dominants going around saying I am into bdsm because I was abused...

maybe they were already submissive...it was there before the abuse...so then they are really a submissive person who HAPPENED to be abused. just as there are Dominants who HAPPENED to be abused

Lots of people get abused, it happens every day...to submissive and to dominant...

this is just my $ 0.02 on it, and only my opinion....