Quote Originally Posted by foreverchained View Post
I was abused as a child by 3 different men. it caused a lot of problems for me when i started trying to accept the sub side of me, and especially when i had to explain to Him. i didn't want him thinking that i had enjoyed the abuse and wanted a 'replay'.

i accept who i am now. there is a huge difference between some one using you against your will, and gladly handing over control and allowing yourself to be controled.

i hope that made sense!

You made perfect sense. I have said this before in another thread, being abused is not a reoccurring illness, as it is only a ghost in your memory. Just because you have submissive tendencies, might have nothing to do with what took place with the three men and you so long ago. You might only need the comfort of protection, along with what your natural need might be, [submissiveness], all people have a need whether they are Dom, sub or vanilla. There is a lot of difference between being abused and controlled against your will as a child, than real life compassionate submission and control between two consenting adults; the latter I believe is life in the community.

Regards ian 2411