reposting: Advice please?

[thir]

hey,
thank you to everyone who has given me advise, He was busy at work and told me we would be able to talk today but to send him an e-mail and He'll reply as soon as possible. So i respectfully told him my position and apologized for walking away and im currently waiting for a reply.
i'm getting really nervous for this reply....

It occurred to me - would you like to spend the waiting time discussing the issue further? Why you think of him as a monster because of his 4 subs in the past?

I find myself that it helps to think with other people - it clears the mind. Often even more so with things that seem self-evident from the start.

[Subkitty46]

It occurred to me - would you like to spend the waiting time discussing the issue further? Why you think of him as a monster because of his 4 subs in the past?

I find myself that it helps to think with other people - it clears the mind. Often even more so with things that seem self-evident from the start.

I don't know, ive known him as someone else, and to find a completely different side of him is just scary and way to different to cope with at the time being.

[openyoureyes]

I don't know, ive known him as someone else, and to find a completely different side of him is just scary and way to different to cope with at the time being.

I know this can be hard, but as we get to know the person we're with, we often find out things we would never have expected about them. We all have a past, we all have secrets. Some of us are more open about them, and for some of us it takes time to reveal them.

He revealed something that shocked you, and from the sound of it, horrified you as well. It's valid for you to be worried that if he had 4 subs at one point, he might want 4 again. But this is why communication is key. You need to find out from him the how and why that situation came about and how it ended. Maybe it's something that he himself didn't enjoy and wouldn't want to try again. But maybe it's something he did enjoy and would want to try again, and you need to find that out.

I hope you get a thoughtful response to your email, and that he can quell your fears and concerns.