I have a vague memory of someone molesting me when i was very young but my sense is that it was an isolated event. I spent several years in therapy brought there by other issues and not sexual abuse. I think i was born with a submissive nature and it may have been enhanced not so much by that molestation i only vaguely remember but moreso by the relationship with my father. My father never sexually abused me (at least not that i recall) but he NEVER showed any affection to me and in fact i can never remember him being affectionate towards my mother even. I loved him so much when i was young and craved his love and affection but he was verbally abusive and constantly said shaming and belittling things to me. He was also quick to get out a belt and stripe my legs with it when i stepped out of line. I can look back and see where i would do things to get in trouble with him because that was the only way to get his attention. So i guess what i'm trying to say (rather longwindedly) is i think we are born either dominant or submissive tendencies but certain life experiences can either surpress our natural leanings or exacerbate them. Hope that makes sense.