As is everything else in this Lifestyle, it's not so much what we do but how and why we do it. C'mon people, we hit each other for fun - CLEARLY we defy convention, so let's try to approach this topic with an outta' the box point of view as well.

Many couples use physical punishments, but we can all see there is a HUGE difference between telling your sub what bothered you before putting her over your knee to spank her and walking into a room and punching her in a fit of anger. There's also a huge difference between cutting off communication with no explanation or emergency contact method, and setting a period of silence and/or no non-essential communication.

Frankly, if a sub were willfully breaking rules and wasting a Dom's time and effort, I see nothing wrong with said Dom saying, "if your time with me means so little, then we're going to spend some time apart. Don't contact me, and I won't contact you this weekend."