Quote Originally Posted by thir View Post
I assume you have considered looking on the various sites where people are looking for partners? There is one here as well.

Why not talk to people on-line, also about non-bdsm things, get to know them to some extent, while still nothing more than an online-name to each other. Talk about your needs, and let them express theirs. It can be nice or tedious, but you cannot really avoid this phase.

Then meet in a public place the first time, and possibly more times.
I haven't considered looking online for partners, I've always had reservations about dating sites and stuff but now you mention it, within this kind of context it could actually work really well. There is more of a need to keep it private here than in the case of a regular vanilla lifestyle where you could go anywhere anytime and easily meet potential partners. OK so you have seriously got me thinking now, but the one thing I'd find a bit weird would be, for example, putting a post out there (or a profile or whatever), having a number of replies and then striking up conversation with lots of people (potential partners) at once. With each person there'd be the unspoken implication that it could go further since that was the nature from which contact started. Could that pose a problem later on? Ideas? Thank you :-)