When someone has second thoughts after the fact

[flying66]

@VaAugusta thankyou!

@Snark nope, like I said, nothing beyond 'heavy petting'

I've modeled with the girl before... the thing is that I think I should have seen this coming (I'm rather gullible, and slow on the uptake at times *sigh*) she's recommended photographers to me that she'll vehemently talk down on months later and has sent me random txts that say "I'm so traumatized!" with no follow up even when I txt back asking what has her so traumatized... it's like pulling teeth getting answers from her a lot of the time.

Anyways, conclusion thus far is that I've deleted her off my fb, talked to some ppl who do and don't also know her ... yes, Snark, a lot of them figured she was bipolar or something long before now (I kept her identity secret from ppl who don't know her... and only remarked on her reaction with ppl who do to keep it confidential)

She txted me varying death threats to which I responded by leaving a voice mail that politely said "I don't appreciate receiving death threats on my phone" ...

now her anger seems to have shifted from both of us equally to more mad at just my partner... something about how her back was to me so I didn't see her object to being touched. Regardless, I haven't blocked her on my phone or on fb... if she ever wants to talk to me again, she has a way to but I'm never going out of my way to contact her.

[thir]

Anyways, conclusion thus far is that I've deleted her off my fb, talked to some ppl who do and don't also know her ... yes, Snark, a lot of them figured she was bipolar or something long before now (I kept her identity secret from ppl who don't know her... and only remarked on her reaction with ppl who do to keep it confidential)

I believe you were right to do this.

She txted me varying death threats to which I responded by leaving a voice mail that politely said "I don't appreciate receiving death threats on my phone" ...

I agree that you should keep these voice mails against any further trouble. I think this is important, there is no saying what such a troubled person can get into her head to do.

now her anger seems to have shifted from both of us equally to more mad at just my partner...

I would guess that this is because she realizes that she cannot get anymore raise from you. Maybe you should suggest to your partner that he does the same thing. As long as either of you give her any answers, she'll keep coming at you for more.

something about how her back was to me so I didn't see her object to being touched. Regardless, I haven't blocked her on my phone or on fb... if she ever wants to talk to me again, she has a way to but I'm never going out of my way to contact her.

From where I sit, I'd say do block her out. It does sound like neither you nor your partner can help her, rather she will keep rambling as long as you try to help her, but without listening because that is not the point. It sounds like compulsary behaviour, which she may not be able to stop. It does not help her, and bothers you.

There are various kinds of emotional vampires, and she sounds like one. Only a pro can help her, but she likely will not seek any help, as long as she can get people to participate in her games.