Cum Restriction Support Thread

[Ozme52]

So, is any of this actually helping you out Mishka?


This thread makes me kind of glad I don't have a Dom, seeing that I would probably fail at CR, I just don't get it.

*runs off to do "stuff" not involving CR, Denial, or edging!*

That's part of what you learn cadence. You'd get it before too long.

[Mishka]

Ozme...you are a cruel, cruel, Dom. And you were spot on correct:

To remind you of your sexuality and sensuality. Constantly remind you. If you pretend you're not on it... you'll miss out on the purpose of it. It's not a punishment. It's a training exercise. I want you to become a sensual being. If you already are... I want more

Rhabbi:

I will tell you though that I have rarely seen you as exciting, passionate, and sexy as you are now. I do wish I knew a way to make this easier for you, but the way you get hot and bothered by the smallest thing actually makes me want to make this a more permanent thing.

It felt like a punishment at first, but I think I'm starting to understand what You're trying to do through this.

[slaveangel{HM}]

During A CR I think there should always be masturbation to the edge and then forced to remain there for a specified period of time, maybe 5 to 10 minutes to start with.

Plus this must be done at least 2 to 3 times a day until the CR is lifted. That way you keep in mind what you are missing. It would be easy to just forget all about cumming if there were nothing to remind you of it. What good would a CR be if you didn't still want to cum? LOL

Grrr that is always what Master has me do, he thinks in the same way. Ah the injustice, but the point is made...it does remind me of what I am missing and when I am allowed to again after more teasing in this way (the longest i have ever been on CR is 2 weeks and nearing the end of it I was a emotionally uncontrollable mess) it makes me more greatful and much closer to my Master when he says the words "Cum girl."

Cum restriction reminds me of my place and of my obedience to Master. Now sometimes I do fail, and I remember documenting this on the forum at one stage...

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=8459

...and it does eat you up inside, but it does bring me and Master closer together. Especially after he gives me the order, the feelings and emotions afterwards between us are something remarkable.

[annie]

and of course... at the store today, this conversation flashed through my mind and I couldn't resist buying a few "choice" veggies.... *weg*

[kestrel]

LMAO annie! You go girl!!!

[Warbaby1943]

and of course... at the store today, this conversation flashed through my mind and I couldn't resist buying a few "choice" veggies.... *weg*

Olives and radishes, for what?

[Austerus]

WB...obviously she meant loose leaf spinach, some capers, and a large cabbage. Olives indeed.

[Ozme52]

..........growing.......

[Warbaby1943]

WB...obviously she meant loose leaf spinach, some capers, and a large cabbage. Olives indeed.

Oops my mistake.

[tessa]

Cookies? *perks* Well, now I have a reason to come over! *ggls*

You need a reason??

I really have been giving this cum restriction thing a think over (in support of Mishka-lishous and because it just fascinates me). The idea that it's used to heighten an awareness in sensuality does allow me to perceive it in an entirely new way.

I am a highly sensual being. I exist within my sensuality, basically. This aspect of myself is a pervasive force in my thoughts actions and daily goings-on. Sometimes to distraction. Ok, lots of times to distraction. ~looks over at Red~ Oh, be quiet. Most times, then. Anyway, the thought that I could be taken even further into that part of myself...wow.

Wow.

And the insight into the Dominant mind about the subject is equally as intriguing. Perhaps a bit more so.

I do love a good ponder. And watching Mishka learn is just hot.

[badlyguidedlittlemis]

I have only just experienced cum restriction - as in, the first time today. I never thought I would like it at all, orgasm denial was something I said to him I would never want. I do not think he will deny me for very long, or fully unless it was punishment. But then again, who knows what the future holds!

But anyway, back to today, as you do, get all cosy, playing a little - getting terribly horny, and he tells me he is going for a shower. I was to touch myself until he returned, but not to cum...

I was a little taken aback by it, but did as instructed, it felt like the longest shower ever!!!

But oh my god, when he returned and I got to cum some time later, it was marvellous, and now I understand why it is used - well, why he uses it.

I will watch this thread with interest.

I wish you all well with it, I may be joining in more as he trains me up on this 'test' of obedience.

[Rhabbi]

I really have been giving this cum restriction thing a think over (in support of Mishka-lishous and because it just fascinates me). The idea that it's used to heighten an awareness in sensuality does allow me to perceive it in an entirely new way.

I am a highly sensual being. I exist within my sensuality, basically. This aspect of myself is a pervasive force in my thoughts actions and daily goings-on. Sometimes to distraction. Ok, lots of times to distraction. ~looks over at Red~ Oh, be quiet. Most times, then. Anyway, the thought that I could be taken even further into that part of myself...wow.

Wow.

This was exactly my intention in imposing this on her, to increase her sensuality as well as her sensitivity. It has actually succeeded beyond my expectations, something that I am sure that anyone who knows Mishka would not be surprised by.

And watching Mishka learn is just hot.

You have no idea tessa, none at all. You should try it from where I sit.

[cadence]

I am beginning to understand the whole idea of CR a little better, and sorry to everyone, I should stay away from things that I have little understanding about.

But all in all it is good for the learning curve.

I still fail to fully comprehend the whole concept because,
A) I don't have a Dom, Master, or other
B) I am selfish when it comes to orgasms, when I am continually left frustrated I need to quell that frustration.
C) I tend to separate my submissiveness and BDSM activities as separate

I am submissive (a service submissive), yet whiny, stubborn, and headstrong. Not great qualities for a sub, but probably a challenge for a Dom.

I experiment in BDSM with exhibition, and humiliation, through role play.
I can incroporate my submissive side into any role play, but that ends when the role play ends. Any CR done is treated in an entirely different manner, it also ends when the role play ends.

I would think that my relunctance to fully appreciate CR, is due to the fact that I think it requires a committed and close relationship between two (or more) people, who want to fully explore the advantages of it.

So sorry if I exasperate anyone, I try and stay quiet, but most times I don't.

I understand why the Dominant chooses to do this, but I would be curious though as to how Mishka feels about it, or any other submissives that do go through the CR process.

[Logic1]

dont be quiet cadence. If everybody would be quiet nobody would learn anything ever.
Mishka might actually revel in the feeling of submissiveness that she gets from the CR process and grow within.

and as for your qualities. Well you might need a good Dom to handle you but then again you might actually change some if you found a good Dom. Not change in a bad way either but change in a good way.
Living and learning is a way of growing as a person and this is one of the ways to grow as a submissive.
+ there is simply nothing sexier than an excited woman.

[moptop]

MY goodness - I'm both sad and glad I didn't find this thread before today. I've been on cum restriction - defining that as my orgasms are his, my playing is his, not to happen if he's not around - for - well, since May. I've also been on cum denial for a lot of that time - edging exercises or vaginal muscle exercises.

I was set free for 3 weeks while he went on holiday - but, well, I only cracked once, I kept myself for him otherwise.

I have just (last night) finished a 16 day stint of cum denial, during which he has put me through some of the most excruciating and arousing and difficult stuff in the world ever. That's the longest I've had to go. Yes, I ended up in tears, begging him to let me cum or stop. He was so nice. He let me stop. *fumes, growls, wails*

But last night, we were due to see eachother (and that is one of the reasons he'd been working me up quite so hard; bastard bastard bastard) and he had to cancel. So he came on line and - after having made me work first - let me cum as much as I liked, any way I liked.

I needed it very, very badly. But I was also very proud of myself, for having managed to hold off despite severe provocation (and believe me, there had been some very seriously erotic stuff going on); and I was fascinated by my own reaction, when I broke down and wept and begged and grovelled... completely not like me at all. I have never been like that before. Some sort of barrier broke in me. He was very proud of me, too. Oh, not the grovelling bit, lol. But - I think he still enjoyed it!!

The only down side was he was staying at friends and his modem automatically shut off at midnight, just when I was in the middle of my first free wonderful orgasm - I was so disappointed when I finally looked at the screen again (yeah, bit carried away...) and he'd gone! And, I knew I wouldn't be able to carry on as much as I'd have liked without him.

Well... I did manage one more... it was a complete blinder But only because I knew he wouldn't mind, and wanted me to have my pleasure.

Is this helping Mishka? Hmmm - I don't know. Just that... I have learnt from it. Learnt just what a mess I can get into! Learnt that I can still over-come it. Learnt that he is aware and does care (I mean I knew that, but I know it more). Learnt... that I don't want to cum without him. My orgasms are his. They are better with him, for him. I cum much more than when I used to just masturbate alone. Even the extra one I took once he'd gone, was only after some 20 minutes deliberating, and deciding that he really had meant it when he'd said I could cum as much as I liked, how I liked. And of course I told him about it.

I can sometimes find it difficult to cum, or to cum in a satisfying manner, when I've been on cum restriction without denial. Denial makes it... oh my... so very very good when you finally get it! You just... open yourself totally.

The main thing is - don't listen to Oz!! DO NOT LISTEN TO HIM. HE IS EVIL!!

[Ozme52]

The main thing is - don't listen to Oz!! DO NOT LISTEN TO HIM. HE IS EVIL!!

I know in your heart you love me.

[Slade]

Cum restriction can be one of the most useful practices a dom can place upon a sub/slave. It can be hard for the person to deal with, the need to fullfill the passion and need that the body has, especially if the Master is teasing his pet. But it can be quite an enjoyable experience, it builds the desire, the need, the want and the aniticipation when you can finally cut loose and when you do. *Grins*

There is nothing like seeing how good a pet can behave while under such restrictions, especially when you allow a single finger to trace up and down their back...it can drive them wild and more than a few will not be able to contain themselves.

[Alex Bragi]

You know, in all seriousness, I have never understood female cum restriction. Male certainly, but not female. I mean, I frequently have what I can only describe as wet dreams. I tell you something else, they often feel so real they're almost as good as the real thing. So, how can a woman avoid these?

[Slade]

The mind is a powerful thing, it operates in ways we can not even comprehend and when we sleep it wanders to and fro on so many things. How many of us can remember full dreams or only pieces of them. How can a person avoid wet dreams, honestly if they are going to have them than they are going to have them.

Results have shown that people who thought they were getting medicine felt better at times, it was a case of the mind being convinced it was getting helped for the body thus the person responded. Dreams are no different, you can not avoid that which you have little control over. Seldom do people realize they are dreaming and able to take control of it.

[Mishka]

And watching Mishka learn is just hot.

You have no idea tessa, none at all. You should try it from where I sit.

i'd love to be where You sit, so You could see it live and in person...and i could see Your reaction.

Originally Posted by tessa
I really have been giving this cum restriction thing a think over (in support of Mishka-lishous and because it just fascinates me). The idea that it's used to heighten an awareness in sensuality does allow me to perceive it in an entirely new way.

I am a highly sensual being. I exist within my sensuality, basically. This aspect of myself is a pervasive force in my thoughts actions and daily goings-on. Sometimes to distraction. Ok, lots of times to distraction. ~looks over at Red~ Oh, be quiet. Most times, then. Anyway, the thought that I could be taken even further into that part of myself...wow.

Wow.

A short background to it: Rhabbi was having me masturbate as often as i could, thinking of him, and have the release i need. Well, real life happens, it went quite a long time for the "real thing", and I was tired. I didn't like it, I couldn't cum, if I thought of Rhabbi I would cry because he wasn't there. I had no interest in masturbating what so ever.

So just when I thought He would relieve me of my trip in the desert, it turned out to be a mirage. He thought cum restriction would be a better help to my lack of sensuality. I thought it was punishment, instead I'm glad He did it.

The first orgasm after this short restriction was the best orgasm I've ever had in my life. This is going to sound sappy and a poor stab at poetic, but there was a complete difference from the orgasms I've had before...ever. Those are red, hot, powerful energy behind them, animalistic, primal and the noises to go with it. This one was unique. It was blue, cold, from the top of my head down to my vagina, gentle, soft. I felt more amazingly feminine, completely lost in slavery, my voice caught in a whimper, or more like a kitten's soft mew at the end release.

My orgasms are his. They are better with him, for him.

[Ozme52]

I train to create a hair-trigger response, and have been very successful doing so.

[Mishka]

What do you mean "hair-trigger response"? You mean how quickly the sub responds to the sound of your voice/commands?

[Ocean_Soul]

I remember once when Ocean and I were a D/s online couple I went nearly a month I think it was.

Oh my gosh.. sometimes it was so hard... I would be beyond provoked and then NOTHING... or he would let me see something of my favorites things (him.. ehehe.. and just incase you ladies don't know he is quite fetching)

I remember being in tears because of frustration... but then I learned to get off on NOT getting off... in a mental way. When he said I could I didn't want to.. I wanted to hold off.. push myself.. my limits.. him... Knowing that this was one of the toughest tests I'd go through made it soooo worthwhile...

try to change your mentality on how you view it. It is not easy. I know.

Occasionally I miss those times....

-anya-

[Ozme52]

What do you mean "hair-trigger response"? You mean how quickly the sub responds to the sound of your voice/commands?

I mean so you cum whenever I ask it when we're together. Whether I have my hands on you or not. Whether I'm toying with your body or not. Whether I draw it out of you physically or mentally.

My body, my hands, my voice, or just my written command. You come fast and hard... so I can do it to you over and over and over again.

[Ozme52]

...again and again.

[gagged_Louise]

mmmm

[moptop]

You come fast and hard... so I can do it to you over and over and over again.

...again and again.

I warned you all. Don't listen to him!!

[Flaming_Redhead]

You need a reason??

I really have been giving this cum restriction thing a think over (in support of Mishka-lishous and because it just fascinates me). The idea that it's used to heighten an awareness in sensuality does allow me to perceive it in an entirely new way.

I am a highly sensual being. I exist within my sensuality, basically. This aspect of myself is a pervasive force in my thoughts actions and daily goings-on. Sometimes to distraction. Ok, lots of times to distraction. ~looks over at Red~ Oh, be quiet. Most times, then. Anyway, the thought that I could be taken even further into that part of myself...wow.

No, I don't really need a reason. Your pervasive force sometimes drives me to distraction. Think of it this way. You want DareDevil to act like a Dom and own you, right? All of you? Uh-huh. That's what I thought. *nods knowingly* Well, when he asks you, "Who's cunt is this," what do you say? Uh-huh. Shouldn't he be controlling your sensual self? Hmmmm? Why shouldn't all your cum be only for him? Trust me. You'll be very aware of your sensuality. I have more orgasms during sex now than I ever had in my whole life! The sensitivity is that much increased. Another thing I've noticed is that I wouldn't dream of turning VoodooMan down, not even if we're angry. That's pretty powerful stuff.

If DareDevil chooses to punish you with orgasm denial, so much the better! *weg* You'll be begging for release like the horny little slut you are! I mean you'll literally do anything to be able to cum. You'll be reduced to begging, pleading, crying....

*ponders tessa in the throes of subbie-land*

You know, in all seriousness, I have never understood female cum restriction. Male certainly, but not female. I mean, I frequently have what I can only describe as wet dreams. I tell you something else, they often feel so real they're almost as good as the real thing. So, how can a woman avoid these?

You don't. VoodooMan says they don't count since they are dreams. I've only had one, but it was so good that I woke up and was cumming for real.

[gagged_Louise]

Couldn't have said it better Red, part of what's so hot about CR is the point that your sensuality is trimmed by His hands (even if mentally, and only some of the time). The thought of being brought close to your turn-on from being bound and cropped or pinched in the tits, whatever, fantasy or reality, and then having to avoid to cum, or beg to be allowed it - sooooo hot. *licks*

[Rhabbi]

I mean so you cum whenever I ask it when we're together. Whether I have my hands on you or not. Whether I'm toying with your body or not. Whether I draw it out of you physically or mentally.

My body, my hands, my voice, or just my written command. You come fast and hard... so I can do it to you over and over and over again.

Keep your hands, and commands, away from Mishka.