Hmm. This has been pretty interesting, reading everyone's replies. I know my take on the subject is confused by the fact that I get really anxious about things, even just chatting with people, much less playing with them. So, for me, I'm least anxious/not at all anxious with female subs, and from there the anxiety level increases as follows: female sub < male sub < female switch < female dominant < male switch < male dominant.

Peculiarly, I feel most drawn to being dominated by a man, which usually scares me and makes me go running for my feminist books, but some dommes appeal to me too. I'd play with dominating a man, and that would be fun, but I think I'd be more likely to get into an actual scene relationship with a female sub.

weird how our brains work, isn't it?