"Barely Submissive"- A Question of Being

[Softly]

Softly, as a relative newbie myself, I understand some of what you're going through. I see a similarity to some of your past, too. My ex was just critical of EVERYTHING that either I did, or our daughter did. (Don't eat so fast!, Gee you eat so slow!) It gets very wearing after a while. I've had to struggle financially, but I think she and I were both more relaxed after we split. Good luck in your search and your personal growth - it sounds like your head is on straight and you're headed in the right direction.

Sadly, it seems to be a fact of life that the ones that hurt us the most are the ones that we love the most. If only people knew how fragile trust is. It's hard enough to get through life when everything is ok, but harder to do when you question your own judgement because of previous errors.

I said it better earlier, but due to login gremlins, lost the post.

[Ozme52]

Sadly, it seems to be a fact of life that the ones that hurt us the most are the ones that we love the most. If only people knew how fragile trust is. It's hard enough to get through life when everything is ok, but harder to do when you question your own judgement because of previous errors.

Aint it the truth. Those who know us best hurt us the most. You wouldn't treat a stranger that badly... why do we tend to treat someone we love so illy?

I said it better earlier, but due to login gremlins, lost the post.

If it happens again, try using your 'back button' after logging back in... you may well find the original post still in the text box and can resubmit it from there. Worked for me when I had these problems... and try the "Remember Me" box when you log in.

[Softly]

Aint it the truth. Those who know us best hurt us the most. You wouldn't treat a stranger that badly... why do we tend to treat someone we love so illy?

If it happens again, try using your 'back button' after logging back in... you may well find the original post still in the text box and can resubmit it from there. Worked for me when I had these problems... and try the "Remember Me" box when you log in. [/SIZE]

I am starting to believe that the reason we treat each other so illy is because of a lack of respect. When I was growing up we called adults Mr., Mrs., or Miss, and in the case of older adults, unless you were one yourself, you never addressed them by their first name...unless requested too. Now it's common place to address anyone by their first name, no matter how little or well you know that person. We were also taught to respect the rights of others, but that has long ago been thrown out the window. No one has manners anymore and no one respects any one else any more. I used to think that was good. Now I don't think so.

As for the lost post, I tried what you suggested, but my post had been sucked into that black void of computer prose.

[Echoes]

Well I really have to say thank you, after at first finding this topic and all the posts a bit overwhelming.
A lot of what I know is based on my first poly Master/slave relationship to which I was able to do a lot of watching and I remember clearly the slave commenting to me how I fight being a submissive, perhaps I was not one, that accepting came so easy and naturally to her...she knew her place immediately ( tell you something more about me too? )
Yet here most everyone is reaffirming my feelings also, the fear, independance, stubborness, fear of abandonment, problems and more so.

Thank you...I don't feel so far out in the middle of nowhere nor so odd.