icey, i couldn't agree more and spent the better part of last year trying to council new gurls just learning about BDSM - it never ceased to amaze me how many could care less for genuine concern of their safety and i did find, especially with the younger gurls, that all they are here for is thrill seeking on the net - to get the attention of as many men as possible

as a result of these 'attention whores', i gave up trying - you can pick them out in a flash just by their intro - they don't care what they are inviting, they don't intend going past the net anyway

the few genuine gurls i councilled came a long way in learning about themselves and those i spent hours talking to and helping overcome the need to submit to every asshole that ordered them to do things, whether they were comfortable or not

bottom line i think is, if they are genuine, they will seek guidance of more experienced subs and truly do wish to learn all they can before accepting the coveted 'velcro collar'

i used to watch these attention whores meet a guy in a chatroom and be collared within hours *rolls eyes* and then equally watch it last about as long - they don't care, it's all about the thrill of the attention and they are worse for giving this lifestyle a bad rep than are the self-titled 'I AM DOM - On your knees bitch'

but in the interest of those new to the scene and genuinely interested in learning, i think i'll post a couple things i wrote in what to beware of when wannabes approach