Quote Originally Posted by Arria View Post
By this I mean, a certain sort of swinger men thinks they can look down on a submissive woman (using the word "slut" in the really bad way). Plus they seem to find it hard to keep their hands off other ladies, and tend to get nasty if you turn them down politely.
I think you hit the reason for the difference in my reaction right on the head.

If I'm walking through a real fetish event and some guy in nothing but leather chaps and a cock ring looks her over, I know the message to me is probably something like: "Good god, how did you manage to get someone like her to give you this precious gift."

Friday night, the message to me was: "Will you share the slut?"