Inhale: One of the most common errors during inhalation is to try to fill the lungs completely on each inhalation. One should never force inhalation beyond comfortable capacity. About two-thirds full is the right measure for an inhalation.

Retain: If properly performed, even brief retention of breath provides profound therapeutic benefits to every organ, gland and functional system in the body. Breath retention for 3-4 seconds slows down heart beat, reduces blood pressure substantially, and triggers cellular respiration.

Exhale: This is more important than inhalation as one has to first thoroughly empty in order to fill the lungs properly with fresh air. Empty lungs in reverse order of inhalation, starting at the top and ending at the bottom.

Pause: When the lungs are completely empty, pause for a few seconds to permit the abdominal wall and the diaphragm to relax again, then commence a slow inhalation.


Deep breathing reduces stress, deepens insight, expands consciousness and increases intuitive perception. When you get angry or start to panic, breathe. Have your Master run you through above exercise. Be aware of your breath. If you are in a conversation, take a moment to breathe before you respond, focus on slowing your breath.

There is nothing horrible about you. Through what little intel you have provided, you seem to have shut yourself down into "survival mode". Thanks to my pet, its a MO of dealing with things I am well familiar with. The worst thing he can do is to try to take you "aggressively" or to "make you submit". The best he can do is to exercise his dominance by being there for you ; and by refusing to indulge into arguing when you become angry for no reason, as hard as it is, he should stay quiet and calmly walk away. I suggest he takes up jogging or performing katas, to help with his patience. When you have calmed down, he may hold you and listen to you.
Once whatever crisis you are dealing with has calmed down, I suggest, just the two of you take a few days away and reexamine the course in which you wish to proceed with your relationship.

This, however, delish is based solely on my experience in dealing with my wife and other subs, not you, so if it doesn't make sense, feel free to ignore it.