i'm a male sub. or at least i think i am but i'm still learing. i hope i can put in my 2 cents as well


Quote Originally Posted by Flaming_Redhead View Post
In my limited experience of 2 years, I have found that most of the male "submissives" are actually fetish bottoms. They don't actually want to "submit" to anything other than their ideal of a female dominant wearing the appropriate fetish costume and, as jeanne pointed out, who follows some kind of scripted fantasy the bottom wants fulfilled. The "dominant" is nothing more than their life-sized blow-up doll....a masturbatory sex object. When these supposedly submissive males are asked what they will do to please their dominants, it's always something like "lick your feet" (foot fetish, anyone?) or "service you orally" (um..yeah...'cause I'm not fucking you after I spit cheese all over you....sorry). This is why pro-doms exist, otherwise known as dominatrices. Pay me a couple hundred dollars, and I'll be glad to put on a blonde wig, corset, and thigh-high boots and let you "worship" my feet. hahahahahahaha
i agree with you. there are alot of people who just see it as a thrill but dont want to be out of control. and to me thats the main thing of being a sub. to not be incontrol. i love the feeling of being out of controle. and i'm only truly happy to please my partner.

also communication is more difficult for a man. at least for me it is. but i do my best . its difficult at time but aslong as your patient and keep going things will always work out. i guess some people just dont want to put in the effort.