How important is the BDSM element for you?

[dynamicbuttler]

BDSM is very important to me. No, I dont have any friends outside the lifestyle. I like it that way. In my 'little sex fantasy' world. If my mate, my friends can't be into the lifestyle. Then they do not think like me, and are not compatible to me, therefore I don't want to hang around them, be apart of them.

Is it implied that a person's taste in music, books, television, movies, art, philosophy, politics, current events, etc. are molded by their sexual clique? Or is it just implied that these things aren't worth talking about, because all you care about is sex, s&m, d/s, etc.?

This is sounding more and more like a Cult object, and I have begun my boycott of the phrase "The Lifestyle." It seems to me that everyone who says "The Lifestyle" is stupid, crazy, full of shit or all three and totally oblivious to anything non-BDSM. I'm generally a very sexually tolerant person but I'd much rather talk to interesting vanilla friends then idiotic and uber-perverted BDSM ones, because weather or not my beer buddies enjoy bondage has little effect on our conversations.

I try to be supportive in general but to anyone who sees life as one big sexual venture, you're no better than "vanillas." In fact, there are plenty of interesting, productive and well spoken vanilla people that I enjoy my conversations with. They are my dear friends who I wouldn't trade for the world. I would hate for someone with an interest in BDSM to have their views jaded or distorted by immature people who live in a fantasy world and a cult.

I hope you'll forgive my bluntness, but this vanilla hating has gone too far. We CAN live alongside these people. They're not nazis and they're not a religion. They just get a little annoying sometimes and have a different but equally valid view on sex. And PS: We can substitute "The Lifestyle" for BDSM. It's shorter, and doesn't have the creepy cult stigma that makes you sound like a disillusioned drone.