How important is the BDSM element for you?

[dynamicbuttler]

BDSM is very important to me. No, I dont have any friends outside the lifestyle. I like it that way. In my 'little sex fantasy' world. If my mate, my friends can't be into the lifestyle. Then they do not think like me, and are not compatible to me, therefore I don't want to hang around them, be apart of them.

Is it implied that a person's taste in music, books, television, movies, art, philosophy, politics, current events, etc. are molded by their sexual clique? Or is it just implied that these things aren't worth talking about, because all you care about is sex, s&m, d/s, etc.?

This is sounding more and more like a Cult object, and I have begun my boycott of the phrase "The Lifestyle." It seems to me that everyone who says "The Lifestyle" is stupid, crazy, full of shit or all three and totally oblivious to anything non-BDSM. I'm generally a very sexually tolerant person but I'd much rather talk to interesting vanilla friends then idiotic and uber-perverted BDSM ones, because weather or not my beer buddies enjoy bondage has little effect on our conversations.

I try to be supportive in general but to anyone who sees life as one big sexual venture, you're no better than "vanillas." In fact, there are plenty of interesting, productive and well spoken vanilla people that I enjoy my conversations with. They are my dear friends who I wouldn't trade for the world. I would hate for someone with an interest in BDSM to have their views jaded or distorted by immature people who live in a fantasy world and a cult.

I hope you'll forgive my bluntness, but this vanilla hating has gone too far. We CAN live alongside these people. They're not nazis and they're not a religion. They just get a little annoying sometimes and have a different but equally valid view on sex. And PS: We can substitute "The Lifestyle" for BDSM. It's shorter, and doesn't have the creepy cult stigma that makes you sound like a disillusioned drone.

[_ID_]

That's utter bullshit. I'm a hardcore submissive, but anyone with that myopic and simplistic a world view is only worth their weight in food. Is it implied that a person's taste in music, books, television, movies, art, philosophy, politics, current events, etc. are molded by their sexual clique? Or is it just implied that these things aren't worth talking about, because all you care about is sex, s&m, d/s, etc.?

Its not bullshit. Its what I want. I have a diverse taste in music, in art, in books TV, politics, and quite up to date on current events thank you very much. I don't associate myself with people outside of BDSM if I don't have to, because I don't want to socialize with them. I don't want them as friends, I don't want them coming over to my house, and having to worry if they will ask questions about the suspension equipment in my living room. I don't make friends with them, because I don't want to. I talk about things other than s/m d/s etc with my lifestyle friends, but the conversation easily turns to BDSM and then back to current events or music or whatever. The flow of conversation never strained by an off color comment. To say my way is narrow minded, is in its self a rather judgmental and narrow minded way to think. I didn't say how you choose to live was wrong, and that your telling me my way is wrong is fucking hypocritical if I ever saw it.