Dating 'vanilla'

[cadence]

I feel like I am missing something here.

The whole reason my relationship has gone in a different direction is related to my submissive side and sex. We have both realized that we want different things and we feel it's best to part ways. We are not leaving on bad terms and we will still be friends. We just want different things.
I think the world of my boyfriend and only want the best things for him. I doubt that I can provide what he wants either.

If I wanted to start dating again, I seriously would rather start dating someone who I know is Dominant rather than try and figure it out months later.
I find that dating someone, getting to know them and enjoying thier company would be kind of dumb, considering that I'll now drop a bomb and tell you I am submissive and I want you to slap me around during sex and humiliate me. I also want to be a service submissive and do everything for you, but you have to appreciate it in a D/s sense. Sure they may be Dominant by chance, but I doubt that the odds would be in my favour.

This isn't the same as being with someone because we both enjoy golfing and the symphony.
The whole point of me being single again is to experience a side of me that I want to experience.
I'm pretty sure that there are Dominants out there who would be compatible with me kinky and vanilla.