On a tangent that is not really a tangent, here is a picture of a truck that my him rebuilt for me. This was on blocks for years, and he, with lots of dirt-crawling, wrench-slinging, grease-eating, and detsailed-tasking (not that kind of task), made into a running classic (that still need lots of TLC... $$$). Anyone who is into details, please feel free to PM me. (sorry, I am "new" to this site again, after the crash, so I can't post links or pictures, even if they are internal links)
wwwdotbdsmlibrarydotcom/forums/album.php?albumid=1173
or just go to my profile and look at albums
Anyhow, this is what led me to get him a collar. I had to do LOTS of introspection about allowing myself to accept his devotion, trusting myself, and trusting him. It hurt to go there, but in the end I was much happier. I think now I am facing the next step.