Non 24/7

[FirstBorn]

[I]as I need to get my own *(& % together.ugh, I hate it when I have to take responsibility for myself. drat.

Excately my problem really, i dont fake emotions well and really prefer not to. Being concerned about something thou is a normal human response. Even if my sub does enjoy the beast within more than my polite, questioning or pondering attitude. I really need those moods and the responses they bring out, to make up my mind on big decisions.

That is i realised im more complex than just plain dominant and thus need more complex responses than just submission to have a fulfilling relationship.

I dont really know if i can explain this in english, but i guess my sub hoped for perfection in me and i really dont care too much about how people see me.

What is clear is that i can only speak for my personality and shortcommings in this one experience.

[leo9]

Excately my problem really, i dont fake emotions well and really prefer not to. Being concerned about something thou is a normal human response. Even if my sub does enjoy the beast within more than my polite, questioning or pondering attitude. I really need those moods and the responses they bring out, to make up my mind on big decisions.

That is i realised im more complex than just plain dominant and thus need more complex responses than just submission to have a fulfilling relationship.

I dont really know if i can explain this in english, but i guess my sub hoped for perfection in me and i really dont care too much about how people see me.

That's the difference between 24/7 and bedroom. It's not whether you wear a collar all day. It's that you can play a role for an hour or two in a bedroom scene, but nobody wants to play a role all the time. It can only become a lifestyle if both people - not just the sub - feel they don't have to play roles, they can be themselves, with everything they are, weaknesses and all, while living a D/s relationship.

My ex-slave used to make a joke of it, when I screwed up in some way she would say "Master is always right even when He's wrong!"

I once had a visit from a Domme, and when she showed an interest in my jewellery I had to scratch around to find samples, and my wife told me off for not having had them ready. I commented to my visitor "Have I mentioned that I'm the Dom here?" My wife smiled: "I serve my Master by reminding him of things he needs to do. People who don't know could mistake it for nagging."