This topic certainly strikes home for me. I struggle with it everyday. I am currently engaged to a wonderful man, who unfortunately does not share in my interest to the lifestyle. I have found myself more and more intrigued over the months, and having an increasing desire to learn more. I tell my fiance about everything, and even incorporate much of my play here into our bedroom in the form of stories. I am lucky in the sense that he is quite open minded and willing to experiment. However, I am a very open person and find myself becoming closer and closer to some people on this site. I always have in the back of my head, a concern that my fiance would not approve. I frequently ask him if he is still comfortable and do my best to keep everything open. At best, it's a very complicated situation!! Just thought I'd share