Married/online D/s?

[Warbaby1943]

Curious myself to hear of anyone's experiences- please let's not let this be spoilt by 'r/l is better' comments. I think that's what stops many people on forums talking about online relationships.

Is your marriage a happy one? Why do you do it? Would you leave your spouse for your D/s partner? Would you meet them in r/l? Is is cheating?
When does it become cheating?

Tojo

My question to those with spouses/partners who are unaware of this situation is: how would you feel if you knew your partner were doing the same things you are doing here or in IM?

Is my marriage a happy one. Yes.

Why do I do it? Because though my wife is a sexy and sensual woman she is not at all interested in anything kinky and I have been for some time now only never admitted it.

Would you leave your spouse for your D/s partner? I could not do that. There are too many other lives it would affect and devastate.

Would you meet them in r/l? In a heart beat. I dream of meeting Aussiegirl all the time but that is all it will ever be, just a dream.

Is is cheating? Technically I guess it is but it isn't hurting a thing even if my wife were to find out about it. It would be embarrassing yes but not earth shattering.

When does it become cheating? I guess at the time I would actually see her I would then know I was going to cheat because I know I would not be able to control my feelings for her if I could actually reach out and touch her.

question to those with spouses/partners who are unaware of this situation is: how would you feel if you knew your partner were doing the same things you are doing here or in IM? I would probably feel hurt but at the same time I would ask the question why was she looking else where. If at all possible I would remedy the situation. My wife on the other hand has had many opportunities to participate in BDSM activities but doesn't want to. I really think if she knew about this site she would have no problem with it. Even if she knew about Aussiegirl and knowing I would never be able to actually meet her, I think she would not be overly upset. Actually I have wanted to tell her for a long time but never got the courage and probably never will, to be perfectly honest.

In any case I do not intend to stop any of my activities here in this forum. I could never give Aussiegirl up even if I wanted to and I know I never will want that. I didn't set out to love her but I can't reverse that now. So if it is wrong, so be it. I am the one who will have to answer for any wrongs I commit and I can't see my love for her as being wrong in any way.