sbbe & warbaby - thanks for your replies. i really hope i didn't come off as so judgemental when i originally posted the question; i know my feelings at the time i posted the question were affected by my experience.

being new here, it's very insightful to hear other experiences & other points of view & i appreciate the honesty.

everyone deserves love in their lives & how we choose to find love & nuture it is what makes us each different.

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