Quote Originally Posted by dzire2pleeze{M_R} View Post
I find myself continually coming back to this post ....why? ~shrugs~ i have no idea. Several times now I have written and not posted, for various reasons. Therefore, I am answering only one question here.

Is it cheating? Cheating is defined as "deceiving" so if your significant other -online or in r/l - is unaware of what is going on ...to me, it's cheating.

Unfortunately, too many people want the best of both worlds. They know that if their significant other discovered what they were doing, either online or r/l, it wouldn't sit well with them, so they deceive. They want that "caribbean cruise" without having to pay for it. Maybe it's the only vacation they'll ever get.

Unfortunately, unless the significant other knows and gives their consent, you are leaving the door wide open for someone eventually getting hurt.

Online we have access to so many different people to whom we can become attracted. All offer us something. All fill a need. Relationships online have about as little a chance of survival as marriages in Hollywood.

I can only say for myself that if i am deceiving someone ...i am cheating...and the moment I am cheating, is the moment I have decided to deceive another.

So this time i'm posting and if it doesn't make sense to anyone else... oh well ... i just don't want to come back to this thread anymore.















When does it become cheating?
I guess we can rationalize anything any way we want. However, if I though for one moment that when my wife found out about me being in a forum like this or in a relationship with someone like I am that it would affect my marriage, I would give it up in a heart beat. I could never stop the love I feel for someone like Aussiegirl but that is something I would have to live with.

My wife knows from all the time I spend on the computer that something is going on. Hell she is in the other room right now and can hear all the keys I am pressing as I type. She has even asked me if I have a girlfriend on line and I have said yes. Which of course she chooses to not believe.

If it is cheating by any definition then I am willing to live with that on my conscience just for the opportunity and privilege to stay in contact with all here who have become such a large part of my life, especially Aussiegirl.

If anyone can't live with themselves because of an on line relationship then that is something they must personally deal with. Me I choose to keep Aussiegirl and all my other friends and not lie to my wife. I just don't volunteer any information she doesn't specifically ask for. If you define that as cheating, then so be it.