for I was told as a part of meditation during training that to speak out against any Dominant is extremely wrong - period. To accept everything, for it is his joy and his peace that is paramount and understanding does not come into this but understanding comes from experience...as you experience and learn to accept any part of his joy, pain ect...that this completes him and that was our goal...there were to be no limits...and yes I know this is not the proper way to begin...now.
Where is the limit when it comes to talking? Speaking of experiences and what you see and disagree with, what you think is abuse?
Or perhaps it should not be said here?
*added in edit*
I wont erase what I said but summarize how I feel.
...looking at IDCrewDawg's post is so very accurate. It is based on reactions, feelings and sense of being and self esteem, how it interacts between the person humiliating and the person being humiliated and varying extremes. Anything that is belittling your worth through verbal abuse and ridicule should really be addressed.