well, none of our families and very few of our friends know about our lifestyle choice but it does not stop me from behaving in a way that is respectful and serving to my Husband infront of them...

my sister in law, who is quite an opinionated bitch, is the only one who has ever said anything at all - and she made some snide comment about Him not moving over to let me sit on the couch after i had settled myself at His feet.

there was plenty of room on the couch and had i wanted to sit there, i could have but i just responded by saying - who said i wanted to sit on the couch?? that shut her up. LOL

my mother in law has watched us closely at times but if she ever pipes up - i will shut her down instantly - she has never worked, not one day in her life (not that i think there is anything wrong with this) and she made her life supporting her husband and children so if she ever has the gall to mention a word about it, i will turn it back to her own choices to shut her up.

the way i see it is this - to each his own and those that choose to stand in judgement dont care to understand that simplicity.

not that this answers your question, but its my 2 cents...