Submission around family? friends even?

[Dragon's muse]

Natalie,

In a perfect world, you would be 100% correct. We do not live in a perfect world. We live in a predominantly vanilla world. We live and work and pay our bills in a predominantly vanilla world.

Perhaps one day, it will be different. We have to deal with the world as we find it today. If Dragon and i insisted on full D/s protocol at a gathering with his clients and co-workers, it would cause a disruption in his work. (Homelessness and starvation are not among out kinks.)

i could even go another route and question whether choosing not to make a flagrant display of our personal dynamic is the same as hiding it, but it is late, and i need sleep.

namaste,
rose

[gloombunny]

Natalie,

In a perfect world, you would be 100% correct. We do not live in a perfect world. We live in a predominantly vanilla world. We live and work and pay our bills in a predominantly vanilla world.

Perhaps one day, it will be different. We have to deal with the world as we find it today. If Dragon and i insisted on full D/s protocol at a gathering with his clients and co-workers, it would cause a disruption in his work. (Homelessness and starvation are not among out kinks.)

No no, I totally agree. I didn't mean to say that people shouldn't hide the real nature of their relationship while around non-BDSMers. I just think they shouldn't have to.

i could even go another route and question whether choosing not to make a flagrant display of our personal dynamic is the same as hiding it, but it is late, and i need sleep.

Well, I think there's a middle ground between "flagrant display" and "don't let anyone know we're D/s".