For us, when we are in a public place or with family, if I should do or say something that displeases my Sir, he lets me know with either "the look" or reminds me of my place with a very soft spoken word or two.

We do have some friends that are fully aware of our choices, they are completely openminded and support us. As far as those who ask questions or make comments...we tell them that this is how we have chosen to live. If they express disapproval or react negatively, we simply tell them, "If you didn't want to know, then you shouldn't have asked." That seems to quiet them up rather quickly.