Most folks would say I was the sub, if asked. It either irritates or amuses me greatly depending. They look at it from the wrong perspective. I fetch and carry for him because I don't want him in the kitchen or in the clothes or whatever. I'm a serious control freak about the kitchen. I don't let anyone clear their plates or go in the fridge. And he doesn't know where most stuff is.

But, he doesn't know or ask where the money is, hands his paycheck over without looking at it, doesn't have his own ATM card, doesn't get to decide what to eat, what to wear. I don't work outside the home and he works very hard. He can dominate as he is very dominant at work, but anything I express strong feelings about he falls in line. I'm truly a switch and he wants me to be more continuously a domme. It's a sticking point at times. The 24/7 thing sounds appealing, but also seems exhausting to me. To be "ON" all the time.

We are sort of uneven, I'll admit. I'm dominant in the bedroom and in the macro things like money, but the day to day stuff we're still working on. In fact, we're in a bit of a fight about it right now.

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