How important is the BDSM element in a relationship, for you? Not necessarily the sex, mind you, but anything at all involved in it -- the feeling of control that your partner exudes, etc. Imagine yourself, single and available. Yet, if you were able to choose between two partners -- 1 who satisfied you completely where BDSM was concerned, but was somewhat lacking in good personality, and the other, who may or may not be open to BDSM but who was far, far better personality wise. Which would be more important to you? Or would you turn down anything less than perfect (and in my opinion, nobody in this world can ever be perfect)?