When I began my venture into the pursuit of the opposite sex, I knew certain things: First, I knew I was a romantic, with a great capacity to love. Secondly, I had some vague idea of what I was sexually- a submissive. However I thought it would be shallow to try to meet a partner based off sex. I believed a great personality was of foremost importance, and everything else was just icing on the cake. How naive I was! I eventually learned that sex was a form of love, not just something you do for a cheap thrill... I learned about how a couple's sexual dynamic really is at the heart of things. I learned that it was difficult to love a woman who wasn't dominant, because I simply am not attracted to little, cute, nice things. Without that imposing kind of presence, any girl is turned not only into a bore but into something I can't see as an object of worship. Seeing that my love is my worship and my submission, I began to realize that sex is at LEAST the second or third most important part of a serious romantic relationship.

If I had to choose between the perfect girl but she wasn't into this or was a sub, and my other option was a messed up, drugged up girl with some decency in her, I'd choose the imperfect one. I know some people will disagree but I believe the way a couple has sex is a reflection of how they do everything else. I want to be controlled and disciplined and kept subservient in the relationship, and a good relationship will have that for me sexually and otherwise. After all, in the end going for great sex isn't shallow. We may think it is, but giving in to your animal urges will only keep serious passion alive for longer. It'll only preserve love. How is that superficial or shallow?