Quote Originally Posted by dynamicbuttler View Post
I never said BDSM was just about sex.
But everything you say is based on that. The thread is about whether BDSM is important to a relationship, and your first post was all about how sex is important to a relationship. You refer to people who want BDSM as an overt presence in all parts of their lives as "seeing life as one big sexual venture". None of your posts make sense as you wrote them without the assumption that BDSM is strictly a sexual thing.

What I did say, and will say it until my last dying breath, is that a practitioner of BDSM should have a life outside of his BDSM life.
Now that I agree with. I can sort of understand the desire to have no "vanilla" friends - it sounds a lot like how I sometimes wish I lived somewhere where I wouldn't have to deal with straight people. I think a lot of people who are in some sort of minority demographic or niche subculture sometimes want things like that. But it's not really a good idea, any more than my Queer Island fantasy is. Limiting who you associate with based on a litmus test like that means missing out on a lot of good people, and doesn't really improve anything, because whether or not someone is worth being around just isn't related to things like that.