thank you all so much for those informative and well thought out answers...i got burned well...i'm a very trusting, open individual who is honest as well..and i've always been up front about the fact that i'm married..my last Master was online as well as real..i met him last fall..i won't go into details much, except that i had fallen for him and believed him when he said he loved me also..we had spent hours on the phone previously for months, and i felt i knew him very well...we played..however we didn't have actual sex, or intercourse, as i felt i couldn't cheat on my husband..well....he had told me that he was separated from his wife..had been for a few years etc..i found out recently that he was indeed not separated but married to her still...and when he came up to meet with me, he was married..i was in shock..i know that my being married means i can't really throw stones..but this guy knew every detail of my marriage..i never lied about that to him...so if he lied about that..from the beginning of our relationship so to speak...what can i believe of him now? he told me that because he got attached to me he didn't want to tell me that he was married, he didn't want to ruin what was developing between us..that's one Master...

the other Master i'll leave for another post..i'm rather long winded..and as you can tell...i am extremely open..maybe too much so..

isabeau